Updated: Feb 25, 2021
Photo Credit: Kate Moss
The Buddha taught that the root of all suffering is attachment. Suffering comes in many forms, and there are so many things we can become attached to – material objects, emotions, relationships, or an idea of how something should be. Attachments to our desires, expectations, and trying to control outcomes is what leads to tension, frustration, anxiety, and suffering.
We all have desires, but our attachment to them disturbs our inner peace and well-being. When we become attached to a certain outcome and cling to expectations, we forget the real purpose of what we are here for. Our souls, which are eternal, came into this temporary experience, for freedom, growth, and expansion. Our ego, however, which operates from pride and insecurity, can get in the way and actually ends up blocking the very things we want.
Control goes against the laws of nature. In nature, there is a season for everything. There is an ebb and flow, and its timing is always perfect. The great irony in life is that when we finally let go of our attachments and release resistance, things start working out with more ease. That’s when you enter the flow state. The flow state is where the magic happens, and your desires actually start filling in. Letting go and allowing is where the well-being is. That’s where you will find inner peace.
Practice releasing resistance where you feel tension. Start allowing things to flow and unfold naturally. Spend more time in the present moment, accepting it as a temporary moment in time. Create space for new energy to flow through, and let nature take over. Trust in the rhythm of nature, and trust in the process of life. Let go and let God.
Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?
Below are some books I recommend to help practice releasing resistance:
Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender – David R. Hawkins
Both of these books are also available in my online store.